Can sex harm my baby? the short answer is No, not directly. Your baby is fully protected by the amniotic sac (a thin-walled bag that holds the foetus and surrounding fluid) and the strong muscles of the uterus. There's also a thick mucus plug that seals the cervix and helps guard against infection. Your penis does not come into contact with the foetus during sex.
Can intercourse or orgasm cause miscarriage or contractions? In most cases, low-risk pregnancies, the answer is no. The contractions that your partner may feel during and just after orgasm are entirely different from the contractions associated with labour. However, it is better to check with your healthcare provider to make sure that your partner’s pregnancy falls into the low-risk category. It is common for doctors to recommend that all women stop having sex during the final weeks of pregnancy, because semen contains a chemical that may actually stimulate contractions.
My partner doesn't want sex, is this normal? It is completely normal for you and your partner's desire for sex to increase or decrease during pregnancy. Some men feel even closer to their pregnant partners and enjoy the changes in their bodies. Some men experience decreased desire because of fears about the burdens of parenthood, or concerns about the wellbeing of both the mother and their unborn child. It is also difficult for some men to reconciling their partner’s identity as a sexual creature with their new emerging identity as a mother. Remember, that communication with your partner is the key, try to explain your fears and deal with them together.
Wednesday, August 27
Tuesday, August 12
Sex - during and after pregnancy
During
One of the main things we worry about when our partner is pregnant is Sex, many men worry that they can hurt the baby. The good news is that sex is considered safe during all stages of the pregnancy provided that your partner is not in a high risk group, ask a medical professional for advice or get your partner to if she falls into this category or are worried.
Of course, just because sex is safe during most pregnancy doesn't mean that your partner or you will necessarily want have it! Many expectant mothers find that their desire for sex fluctuates during certain stages in the pregnancy so don‘t feel rejected it is just hormones and often size, many women find that sex becomes uncomfortable as their bodies get larger.
You need to communicate (we know its easier said than done) with your partner about your sexual relationship and try to understand the hormonal and physical change that she is going through that might make her feel less comfortable with sexual activities.
If you can it may help to talk about other ways to satisfy your need for intimacy, such as kissing, caressing, and holding each other etc.
If you do have sex you also may need to experiment with other positions for sex to find those that are the most comfortable. In the later stages it is common for many women to lose their desire and motivation for sex late in the pregnancy, not only because of their size but also because they're preoccupied with the impending delivery and the excitement of becoming a new parent. Remember it is only nine months and thing should get back to normal soon after the birth.
Sex after birth
Your partners midwife will generally give your partner guidelines about sex after the birth of your child, this will depend on the type of birth that your partner has had. It is best to follow these guide lines and wait until it is safe to resume normal sex life.
It is also worth pointing out that it is possible that it may take your partner sometime before they feel ready to have sex, this is a subject that couples often don't discus but it is much better to talk about how you feel an allow your partner to express herself this can stop either of you from harbouring resentment. The good news is that in most cases couples do get their sex lives back it is not just as easy to find the time or the energy with a new baby, so try to make time for each other.
One of the main things we worry about when our partner is pregnant is Sex, many men worry that they can hurt the baby. The good news is that sex is considered safe during all stages of the pregnancy provided that your partner is not in a high risk group, ask a medical professional for advice or get your partner to if she falls into this category or are worried.
Of course, just because sex is safe during most pregnancy doesn't mean that your partner or you will necessarily want have it! Many expectant mothers find that their desire for sex fluctuates during certain stages in the pregnancy so don‘t feel rejected it is just hormones and often size, many women find that sex becomes uncomfortable as their bodies get larger.
You need to communicate (we know its easier said than done) with your partner about your sexual relationship and try to understand the hormonal and physical change that she is going through that might make her feel less comfortable with sexual activities.
If you can it may help to talk about other ways to satisfy your need for intimacy, such as kissing, caressing, and holding each other etc.
If you do have sex you also may need to experiment with other positions for sex to find those that are the most comfortable. In the later stages it is common for many women to lose their desire and motivation for sex late in the pregnancy, not only because of their size but also because they're preoccupied with the impending delivery and the excitement of becoming a new parent. Remember it is only nine months and thing should get back to normal soon after the birth.
Sex after birth
Your partners midwife will generally give your partner guidelines about sex after the birth of your child, this will depend on the type of birth that your partner has had. It is best to follow these guide lines and wait until it is safe to resume normal sex life.
It is also worth pointing out that it is possible that it may take your partner sometime before they feel ready to have sex, this is a subject that couples often don't discus but it is much better to talk about how you feel an allow your partner to express herself this can stop either of you from harbouring resentment. The good news is that in most cases couples do get their sex lives back it is not just as easy to find the time or the energy with a new baby, so try to make time for each other.
Thursday, August 7
How to help your partner at the birth
Do as you are told is the short and simple answer!!
In all seriousness it’s true, the best way that any potential father can help is to do as he asked whether by medical professionals or by his partner.
Most women will say how they want you to help and if they don't, ask what you can do but don‘t keep asking you will be told to shut up in no uncertain terms. Some women sail through the labour and in their second or third it is often quicker and easier but remember that even the mildest mannered women can be aggressive and in some cases down right nasty during their labour and this is normal.
You must remember that even though this is a totally natural process all women are scared (no matter what they say) and often in a lot of pain, try to be patient and not to take any comments to heart. It is particularly important if something is going wrong during the birth to reassure you partner that everything will be ok and it will soon be over you may get a sharp response but it is best to try.
So if you choose to be there then try to stay as calm and as reassuring as you can possible be oh and if you pass out you will hear it over and over again so if you feel faint it is usually to do with the fact that it is very hot in the delivery room (honest! Not that you are scared and excited no defiantly not ), then get a drink of water or step outside for a minute but try not to miss the actual birth doing that would be as bad as passing out.
In all seriousness it’s true, the best way that any potential father can help is to do as he asked whether by medical professionals or by his partner.
Most women will say how they want you to help and if they don't, ask what you can do but don‘t keep asking you will be told to shut up in no uncertain terms. Some women sail through the labour and in their second or third it is often quicker and easier but remember that even the mildest mannered women can be aggressive and in some cases down right nasty during their labour and this is normal.
You must remember that even though this is a totally natural process all women are scared (no matter what they say) and often in a lot of pain, try to be patient and not to take any comments to heart. It is particularly important if something is going wrong during the birth to reassure you partner that everything will be ok and it will soon be over you may get a sharp response but it is best to try.
So if you choose to be there then try to stay as calm and as reassuring as you can possible be oh and if you pass out you will hear it over and over again so if you feel faint it is usually to do with the fact that it is very hot in the delivery room (honest! Not that you are scared and excited no defiantly not ), then get a drink of water or step outside for a minute but try not to miss the actual birth doing that would be as bad as passing out.
Saturday, August 2
What to expect at the birth of your child
Screaming, yelling, swearing you beautiful partner to turn into something from the exorcist, well in some cases we can't lie that is true. The plain fact is that it is difficult to tell you what to expect as all births are different, all men are different some choose not to be present at all and wait at a safe distance as most of their fathers did, others choose to be present but to stay at their partners head and not to look at the emerging child, others choose to be fully involved and watch the baby emerge and sometimes a more recent occurrence is for fathers to video the whole birth.(not sure who would want to watch it, maybe there will be a spate of wine cheese blood and birth parties).
If you choose to attend the birth as over 70% of men do it can be difficult to watch a person that you love in so much discomfort and your natural instinct is to try to fix it but there is nothing you can do other than watch and try to be as reassuring as you can possibly be. In some cases the partner is not allowed to be present at the birth at all this is rare but is for medical reasons and can't be helped. The decision of what to do is completely down to personal preference and it is a choice that is best discussed before the event.
Whatever level of involvement you have it is a tense time and highly emotional for all concerned so be prepared to feel scared, tearful and then elated when it is all over. It is an amazing feeling to become a Dad and when all is said and done no matter what you decided the result will be the same, at the end of it all you will be handed a baby and you will be responsible for them, your world will change for ever.
If you choose to attend the birth as over 70% of men do it can be difficult to watch a person that you love in so much discomfort and your natural instinct is to try to fix it but there is nothing you can do other than watch and try to be as reassuring as you can possibly be. In some cases the partner is not allowed to be present at the birth at all this is rare but is for medical reasons and can't be helped. The decision of what to do is completely down to personal preference and it is a choice that is best discussed before the event.
Whatever level of involvement you have it is a tense time and highly emotional for all concerned so be prepared to feel scared, tearful and then elated when it is all over. It is an amazing feeling to become a Dad and when all is said and done no matter what you decided the result will be the same, at the end of it all you will be handed a baby and you will be responsible for them, your world will change for ever.
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