Sex - during and after pregnancy

During
One of the main things we worry about when our partner is pregnant is Sex, many men worry that they can hurt the baby. The good news is that sex is considered safe during all stages of the pregnancy provided that your partner is not in a high risk group, ask a medical professional for advice or get your partner to if she falls into this category or are worried.

Of course, just because sex is safe during most pregnancy doesn't mean that your partner or you will necessarily want have it! Many expectant mothers find that their desire for sex fluctuates during certain stages in the pregnancy so don‘t feel rejected it is just hormones and often size, many women find that sex becomes uncomfortable as their bodies get larger.

You need to communicate (we know its easier said than done) with your partner about your sexual relationship and try to understand the hormonal and physical change that she is going through that might make her feel less comfortable with sexual activities.
If you can it may help to talk about other ways to satisfy your need for intimacy, such as kissing, caressing, and holding each other etc.

If you do have sex you also may need to experiment with other positions for sex to find those that are the most comfortable. In the later stages it is common for many women to lose their desire and motivation for sex late in the pregnancy, not only because of their size but also because they're preoccupied with the impending delivery and the excitement of becoming a new parent. Remember it is only nine months and thing should get back to normal soon after the birth.

Sex after birth
Your partners midwife will generally give your partner guidelines about sex after the birth of your child, this will depend on the type of birth that your partner has had. It is best to follow these guide lines and wait until it is safe to resume normal sex life.

It is also worth pointing out that it is possible that it may take your partner sometime before they feel ready to have sex, this is a subject that couples often don't discus but it is much better to talk about how you feel an allow your partner to express herself this can stop either of you from harbouring resentment. The good news is that in most cases couples do get their sex lives back it is not just as easy to find the time or the energy with a new baby, so try to make time for each other.